How does your approach go beyond standard coaching?
Most standard coaching focuses on conscious goal-setting, strategy, and behavior change. While that can be helpful, it often stays at the surface. My approach goes beyond personal improvement and reaches identity transformation. I have walked this path myself, so I understand from the inside the challenges, steps, and crossroads that present themselves along the way. My work is shaped not only by what I have studied, but by what I have lived, discovered, and transformed.
What does working with you look like and what is the investment?
My work is centered around transformation rather than a predetermined number of sessions. Because each person arrives with a different history, set of circumstances, and place they want to reach, the length and structure of our work together can vary.
Some transformations may unfold over several sessions, while deeper work may take place over a period of several months. In your free initial consultation we will begin by getting clear on where you are, what you are experiencing, and the transformation you are seeking. From there, we can determine the level of support that best fits the work.
A package of three, 60-minute sessions costs $450. For a single session or larger package of sessions please contact me. We will discuss the recommended structure and investment before beginning so you can decide whether it feels right for you
What kind of transformation can you help achieve?
My work focuses on identity transformation: changing the deeply held beliefs, protective structures, and internal orientation that have shaped who you learned to be.
Perhaps you learned to be vigilant because the world did not feel safe, to abandon yourself to preserve love, to keep your attention focused on others, or to protect your vulnerability by closing your heart. These adaptations can become so deeply embedded that they feel like who you are rather than ways you learned to survive.
I help you uncover what formed that identity, work with the unconscious structures that continue to sustain it, and discover what is true beneath them. From there, we work with the heart to build an identity that reflects who you are now rather than what happened to you then.
The transformation is not about becoming a better version of your old identity. It is about becoming someone you could not have been while the old identity was still necessary.
What is an inner child wound?
An inner child wound is a painful emotional imprint created during childhood when we experience abandonment, rejection, criticism, or emotional neglect.
Inner child wounds live in the unconscious and are frozen in time until healed. Because we are unconscious to the wound, it can take us over, influence our decisions and feelings and we do not realize it.
It’s the part of you that still wants to be seen, protected, and loved.
Can an inner child wound be healed?
Yes! One must work directly with their unconscious, where the wound is located, in order to heal it. Valerie Alexander, Jungian Coach has healed her abandonment wound, reverse engineered the steps she took to heal it, and has created a three steps process to heal an inner child wound. You can learn about the three steps HERE.
How do inner child wounds effect adult relationships?
From the beginning of the relationship to the ending, the inner child wound is effecting the relationship. It is your unconscious that has chosen, that resonates with the partner. You may not yet know who the other person is, but your unconscious knows who they are and who they will be to you. It is fascinating! When you begin the three step process to heal the wound this will become clear.
Why can't I heal the patterns I am aware of?
Identifying your patterns is the starting point. The patterns themselves are fueled by what is in your unconscious. For example, you may consciously know of a pattern and decide not to repeat it only to find yourself back in the pattern again. Working directly with your unconscious will enable you to dismantle the pattern from the root. Many negative relationship patterns are the result of an inner child wound. When the inner child wound is healed, the patterns fall away.
What is the three step process you teach to heal an inner child wound?
After I healed my inner child wound I reversed engineered the steps I took and simplified it into three, critical steps. These steps can be repeated by anyone who desires to heal a wound.
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Awareness of the wounded inner child and how your particular wound feels.
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Awareness of the wounded inner child in your relationships. In this step you identify your shadow aspect that accompanies the inner child.
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Choice point. In this final step you are prepared to choose, as the result of being triggered, to be taken over by the wound or choose to be done with it and reclaim agency over your life.
How is Jungian Coaching different from therapy?
Therapy and Jungian coaching serve different purposes. Therapy is a healthcare profession and may include the diagnosis and treatment of mental health conditions. I do not diagnose or treat mental disorders.
My approach to Jungian coaching is focused on identity transformation. We work with the unconscious to uncover the wounds, beliefs, protective aspects and other influences that have shaped who you learned to be. Rather than working only with what you consciously know about yourself, we also pay attention to what emerges through dreams, symbols, synchronicities and other expressions of the unconscious.
My role is to guide you through a focused transformational process. Much of what I guide others through is territory I have traveled myself, which allows me to make what can seem nebulous or complicated practical and understandable.
The goal is not simply greater insight into why you are the way you are. It is to transform your relationship with yourself, your inner world and, ultimately, how you experience and participate in your life.
I do not diagnose or treat mental health conditions, and Jungian coaching is not a substitute for psychotherapy or other mental health treatment when those services are needed.
What is a shadow companion and why does it matter?
Most people think it is only the inner child that acts out, but the inner child is not alone. It has a shadow companion that developed to compensate for being vulnerable and alone and functions to protect the child. This shadow companion can be reactive. It is one of the easiest aspects to identify on the healing journey. The shadow companion usually needs to be moderated in adulthood because sometimes it can over react. I go more into the shadow companion in the course, "Three Steps To Heal An Inner Child Wound".
What happens in a depth session with you?
We identify and explore:
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the wound behind the current struggle
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what the unconscious is expressing
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repeated patterns, particularly in your relationships
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dreams, synchronicities, feelings and inner images
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the guidance from the Self
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My approach is warm, grounded, intuitive and direct. Clients leave the session with clarity, knowing their next steps and a deeper relationship with their unconscious.
Who is best suited for your coaching?
My coaching works best for people who are:
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are open and receptive to their inner world
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aware that they have a wound to heal and want help
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are stuck in repeated relationship patterns
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are sensitive and self reflective
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know something deeper is trying to get their attention
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are ready for deep inner work and transformation
Do I need to understand Jungian concepts to benefit from working with you?
No! No doubt you have been living the concepts and just did not know it, thus in our work you will begin to understand how your unconscious has always been with you. My clients come to me because they want to heal something, not because they have studied Jung. I translate what may appear complex and confusing into practical steps anyone can follow.
Do you offer single sessions or packages?
I offer both. My current offering is:
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60-Minute Depth Work Session
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Four-Session Coaching Package
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Three Step Inner Child Healing Course (self paced)
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How do I know I am ready to begin the work?
You are ready if:
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You are anxious and excited about journey with your inner world
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You have childhood wounds you want to heal
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You are tired of repeating the same unsatisfying patterns
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You want a life with meaning
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You are willing to begin shifting your focus from what is happening externally to your inner world