What is an inner child wound?
An inner child wound is a painful emotional imprint created during childhood when we experience abandonment, rejection, criticism, or emotional neglect.
Inner child wounds live in the unconscious and are frozen in time until healed. Because we are unconscious to the wound, it can take us over, influence our decisions and feelings and we do not realize it.
It’s the part of you that still wants to be seen, protected, and loved.
Can an inner child wound be healed?
Yes! One must work directly with their unconscious, where the wound is located, in order to heal it. Valerie Alexander, Jungian Coach has healed her abandonment wound, reverse engineered the steps she took to heal it, and has created a three steps process to heal an inner child wound. You can learn about the three steps HERE.
How do inner child wounds effect adult relationships?
From the beginning of the relationship to the ending, the inner child wound is effecting the relationship. It is your unconscious that has chosen, that resonates with the partner. You may not yet know who the other person is, but your unconscious knows who they are and who they will be to you. It is fascinating! When you begin the three step process to heal the wound this will become clear.
Why can't I heal the patterns I am aware of?
Identifying your patterns is the starting point. The patterns themselves are fueled by what is in your unconscious. For example, you may consciously know of a pattern and decide not to repeat it only to find yourself back in the pattern again. Working directly with your unconscious will enable you to dismantle the pattern from the root. Many negative relationship patterns are the result of an inner child wound. When the inner child wound is healed, the patterns fall away.
What is the three step process you teach to heal an inner child wound?
After I healed my inner child wound I reversed engineered the steps I took and simplified it into three, critical steps. These steps can be repeated by anyone who desires to heal a wound.
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Awareness of the wounded inner child and how your particular wound feels.
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Awareness of the wounded inner child in your relationships. In this step you identify your shadow aspect that accompanies the inner child.
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Choice point. In this final step you are prepared to choose, as the result of being triggered, to be taken over by the wound or choose to be done with it and reclaim agency over your life.
How is Jungian Coaching different from therapy?
Traditional therapy focuses on conscious insights. Jungian coaching works directly with the unconscious and has a focused approach. For example, you want to heal an inner child wound. I know exactly how to do that because I have done it and make the process simple. In therapy you may meander around your childhood memories for months or even years and still be unhealed.
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I do not diagnose and treat mental disorders. I guide you to heal emotional wounds, expand your awareness and connect with the parts of you that you did not know were there. If you want a more detailed look at why therapy falls short when it comes to healing an inner child wound you can find it HERE.
What is a shadow companion and why does it matter?
Most people think it is only the inner child that acts out, but the inner child is not alone. It has a shadow companion that developed to compensate for being vulnerable and alone and functions to protect the child. This shadow companion can be reactive. It is one of the easiest aspects to identify on the healing journey. The shadow companion usually needs to be moderated in adulthood because sometimes it can over react. I go more into the shadow companion in the course, "Three Steps To Heal An Inner Child Wound".
What happens in a depth session with you?
We identify and explore:
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the wound behind the current struggle
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what the unconscious is expressing
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repeated patterns, particularly in your relationships
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dreams, synchronicities, feelings and inner images
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the guidance from the Self
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My approach is warm, grounded, intuitive and direct. Clients leave the session with clarity, knowing their next steps and a deeper relationship with their unconscious.
Who is best suited for your coaching?
My coaching works best for people who are:
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are open and receptive to their inner world
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aware that they have a wound to heal and want help
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are stuck in repeated relationship patterns
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are sensitive and self reflective
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know something deeper is trying to get their attention
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are ready for deep inner work and transformation
Do I need to understand Jungian concepts to benefit from working with you?
No! No doubt you have been living the concepts and just did not know it, thus in our work you will begin to understand how your unconscious has always been with you. My clients come to me because they want to heal something, not because they have studied Jung. I translate what may appear complex and confusing into practical steps anyone can follow.
Do you offer single sessions or packages?
I offer both. My current offering is:
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60-Minute Depth Work Session
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Four-Session Coaching Package
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Three Step Inner Child Healing Course (self paced)
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How do I know I am ready to begin the work?
You are ready if:
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You are anxious and excited about journey with your inner world
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You have childhood wounds you want to heal
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You are tired of repeating the same unsatisfying patterns
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You want a life with meaning
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You are willing to begin shifting your focus from what is happening externally to your inner world